Married life is getting old!

[focusfanatic01]

Damn after reading all that that makes me feel real sorry and def makes me not wantin marriage and glad I don't have kids

[Floridagrowin]

Bro don't take this as an offense, but how is this possible? you need to talk to her about it, and if you have - talk a lot more. 2x a year would drive me insane, but than again it's up to the person. I think a lot of guys get shy and can't get anything out of talking to their loved ones. That's the issue these days.

I have a close friend who is in the same situation. They have been married over twenty years and for the past 15 or so years they have sex a couple time a year. Personally that would be too many times with her for me . They have kids so he has stayed. He got a girl on the side and she found out and got pissed. Not sure what she thought he should do. I told my wife before we got married that if I wasn't getting it at home I would be getting it elsewhere and I have lived up to that. I do understand that after some women have kids their hormones are never the same and they just don't desire sex but they need to recognize that and find out what it takes to change it. It's just not acceptable in my opinion unless there is a medical reason for it that can't be treated.

[ianbell121]

my pop is retired now. me and my brother is supporting mu family. my mom worked a lot more to give us proper chance. although i seen sometimes they are arguing, but most of time they love each other. and happy and proud to be a part of such family. i love u mom and dad.

[2Rhodesians]

sorry you're going through this HB. Like the others, I've been down this path myself. I ened my first marrage and it was for the better, even though we had 2 daughters. My issue was that I carried a lot of resentment around with me and I couldn't let go of it. Our relationship wasn't too good in the end, but I definitely didn't help on my end. I learned a lot having gone through that and now I am happily married again. I love my wife (current one) and my family more than anything. Maybe it's cause I'm older and smarter than I was 15 years ago, but we talk, have "parents" night at least once a month, do a lot of family stuff together, etc... THIS is the stuff that makes everythig else work. We have sex 3-4 times a week and that just wouldn't heppen without the other "relationship" things that we do together.

I obviously don't know all of the details of your situation, but waht I'm trying to say is that there may be reasons for the things that you don't like in your marrage (lack of sex, etc...). If you think it's worth it, try to mend it. no judgement here, but my opinion on relationships (and everything really) is that what you get out of it is pretty much what you put into it.

GL bro