Post Partum Depression

[Val]

Hi! I'm new here. I recently had a baby boy who's 3 months old today. I was wondering if any of you have experienced PPD or know someone who has. What were your/their symptoms? Is it possible to just start showing up now? I'm completely exhausted and feel like a complete recluse, not to mention the constant crying. What's that all about ? Sheeesh, first we have to have the baby, then we have to care for it 24/7 and now feel like an absolute cow. I sure wish I could go back to the Garden of Eden and slap the shit out of Eve.

[Janus]

Tink knows about this stuff...

[mac83]

BUMP for val

[Tink]

LOL tink knows about this stuff huh????? hehehe

Mine hit me about 3 months as well. There were times, that for no reason, i would just break down and cry. Or, i would get undressed to get in the shower, see my perfect skin had a few markings on it from the pregnancy and feel so icky. I was tired a lot, and worn out, my husband was deployed. Everything and i mean everything made me cry..lol. I felt so disgusting, i hated everything about myself. the only joy i found, was holding my baby girl in my arms. lol

For me, i think it was just something that went away. Probably around 8 months or so. I knew i had it, but didn't ever know what to do with it, so when iwas feeling down, i wou ld try to find so mething i enjoyed...something with my daughter, but at times, something like panting my toe nails, or finger nails, something to make you feel pretty. If you get the chance, you should go out and get like a pedicure at one of these times. For me anyways, it didn't seem to be there all the time.

Most important thing is to realize when you are going through one of this sad moments, or a moment were you are angry. Not that you would ever take it out on your child, but the baby will feed off of your emotions. I never believed when people said this, until i saw it happen in my situation and even now still when she is 4..lol. So, it would be best at these times, if it is available, put the baby down until you feel a bit better, or give him to daddy, ect... I think when the baby is there, and you are the only one available to him, it is helpful to remember, that you will only have that moment with your son one time. You will never gain that moment back. So cherish every single moment you have with him.
I hope this might have helped a bit??? LOL...if you need more specific ideas or situations ect..let me know..or PM me hun! Good luck!

[Reverend Satan]

text messaging your eccentric yet amazingly inelligent friend can help too.

[Supergirl]

Imbalanced hormones are *****!!!

2 options....

1) tough it out til they balance out (and they will... eventually lol!)
2) talk to your baby doc... he/she may suggest a temporary hormone treatment or possibly have other suggestions...


Good luck girl!! And if you see Eden, slap her one for me too!!!

[Val]

Originally Posted by Satan

text messaging your eccentric yet amazingly inelligent friend can help too.

Funny that you misspelled intelligent! J/k... you're a great friend.

[Voodoo]

I was an emotional basket case right after she was born. especially since I had to spend a week in the hospital with her having viral meningitis....
I am only 3 months into life with her, and I don't feel any different then before she was born. So, I guess I am lucky.
But sometimes things will make me cry that never made me cry before....like that song from Creed...arms wide open.... Or finding out that my friends 7 year old daughter had leukemia. Or sometimes when I look at her I get teary eyed. But no depression.
As far as feeling unhappy about my body...hell yes...and I didn't gain excessive amounts of weight either....its just that my body doesn't feel the same. ALL of the muscle I busted my ass building was sucked away by all of the extra estrogen my body produced during pregnancy. And since I couldnt stand the smell of most food, I didn't eat as much as I should have. atleast I have my work cut out for me....
Val, I hope that you feel better...are you nursing or formula feeding?
I wonder if that makes a difference at all.....
Keep your chin up sister, you got a handsome lil man there that loves you more than anything else on this planet!!!

[thor]

if your baby cries more than usual perhaps he is collicie...."they" say that a vaccum is calming to a baby who has colic as for ppb's if it is severe you really should chat to the doc and he might be able to help....if you have lots of people around who are giving advice and you feel like you want to shove your fist down their throats...stop and think a min...are they all experienced mothers? if so they are just trying to help and might have some good sound advice if you give it a chance.....i personally know someone who took it all as a personal attack and that wasn't the way the advice was given at all......good luck and try to keep the patients......another thing to think about....being in the body is very very noisy and babies are actually used to noise so perhaps you have things to quiet for him in the home. they also like to be swaddled snuggly.

[Tink]

Originally Posted by thor

if your baby cries more than usual perhaps he is collicie...."they" say that a vaccum is calming to a baby who has colic as for ppb's if it is severe you really should chat to the doc and he might be able to help....if you have lots of people around who are giving advice and you feel like you want to shove your fist down their throats...stop and think a min...are they all experienced mothers? if so they are just trying to help and might have some good sound advice if you give it a chance.....i personally know someone who took it all as a personal attack and that wasn't the way the advice was given at all......good luck and try to keep the patients......another thing to think about....being in the body is very very noisy and babies are actually used to noise so perhaps you have things to quiet for him in the home. they also like to be swaddled snuggly.

I think this is very important to keep in mind. There is going to be tons of people that want to offer you advice, and you just want to tell them all to stop and let you screw up on your own...lol. I did this..some one very near and dear to me offered a helping hand, and i bit it. Thought i was being told what to do and bossed around a bit, and i didn't take kindly to it. Later on realized my mistake, and i am so thankful the advice and support this person gave me. I have always regretted that day, that i snapped.

So be careful!!!!!!! Just know, that they are trying to be helpful and listen to and take all the advice you can!!! It only gets harder....good luck sweetie!