Clitoral Stimulation for Dummies
Q: What is the clitoris, and what's it for?
A: The clitoris is a part of a woman's genitals that for many women is the most sexually sensitive part of her body. See a nice diagram of a woman's genital area.
When we were developing in our mother's womb, our bodies weren't well differentiated by male and female characteristics. Certain genital flesh for males become a penis and the same flesh for females becomes a clitoris, also known as a clit. There are an incredible number of nerve endings per square inch in the clitoris, and usually becomes an important part of female sexual response.
Research in the last few years has shown that the sensitive clitoral tissue is not just the flesh that is externally visible. In fact, that flesh is like the tip of an iceberg: most of the total volume is under the surface. The clitoral tissue as well as associated nerve endings extend in a larger area, such that some G-spot stimulation and anal stimulation for women may be in part because of the complexities of nerve endings associated with clitoral tissue.
Since the majority of women are unable to achieve orgasm solely with ******* stimulation (for instance, in penis-vagina intercourse), understanding the clitoris is often the key to orgasm and sexual satisfaction in women of all sexual orientations.
Every woman likes different types of clitoral stimulation, and the only way to determine what you or your female partner enjoys is to experiment. If your partner is female, ask her what she enjoys. However, she might not know yet, so this is a great opportunity to experiment.
Some women like direct stimulation: touching the clitoris with your finger, tongue, or a vibrator. Some women only like indirect stimulation: touching the area around the clitoris or touching the clitoris covered by the clitoral hood, a small bit of flesh comparable to a man's penis foreskin.
Some women like a light touch. Some women like a firmer touch. Some women like slow clitoral stimulation. Some women like very fast clitoral stimulation in the form of fast tongue licks or the fast vibrations of a vibrator. Some women like additional ******* stimulation, but others find it irritating and prefer focusing on the clitoris. Some like to start slow and increase speed when approaching orgasm. There are infinite variations that women enjoy, so try lots of techniques.
If you are playing with your partner's clitoris, ask her what she likes and be prepared to listen to what she says. It's a very sensitive area, so if she says that she needs you to press less firmly or go slower, do what she says and make her very happy ... or else it may cause pain. In time, with experimentation and communication, you will learn how to make her very very happy.
Women who want to learn more about their own clitoris tend to learn the most through masturbation. We provide an article about female masturbation for your use.
Men who want to learn about their partner's clitoris often learn a lot from experimenting with oral sex. We provide an article about cunnilingus for your use.
For more information...
Female Anatomy : an introduction to women's genital region from Scarlteen.com
Becoming Orgasmic from San Francisco Sex Information
Learn about another sensitive part of women's body, the G-spot.
Clitical.com - A good web site about female sexuality, including anatomy (with pictures), masturbation, and other sex topics
If you have questions about any of the above information, or would like to know more, please call the San Francisco Sex Information switchboard at (415) 989-SFSI (7374) or toll-free in the USA (877) 472-SFSI (7374). Our hours are Monday through Friday from 3-9pm Pacific time (6pm-midnight Eastern time), and now we have limited Saturday hours too. Find out more about calling us.
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